The millennial generation has killed many things: cable TV, golf, McDonald's, and now, seemingly healthy sex.
"LoveSync" is a new gadget being launched which is the Amazon Dash button aimed at excited men and women who do not feel comfortable telling their partner that they would like to have sex. Instead of bending over and vocally asking your girlfriend or boyfriend, the LoveSync button does it for you. There are basically two buttons: one for you and one for your partner. If you feel excited, you press your button, which sends a signal to your partner's button, simply asking if they also want to have sex. Your partner then has two options: he can press the button back to inform you that he is ready to go down, or hold it down for four seconds to inform you that it is not at the height for the moment.
The button may seem like a simple way to start a night of passion, especially if you do not want to talk to your partner in advance for any reason, but the existence of the button causes some problems.
"When you have the impression that you may be spoiled, you press your button anonymously," reads the page. "Your desire will be stored for a set period of time. No risk of rejection here, nor pressure on your partner – if only one of you type, nothing happens. "
Your partner can simply cancel your desire.Kickstarter
According to LoveSync, apparently the new favorite of sex therapists of the year, here are the conditions under which it is permissible to have a sexual relationship with one's partner:
These buttons seem to have been designed for a traditional monogamous couple, so it is not exactly anonymous. You or your partner are excited; it's not like there's a third person in this equation. But this raises a particular dilemma; Like everyone who has an Amazon Dash button and a cat, dog or toddler will tell you, accidents happen. Sometimes a button is pressed several times and you end up with 10 cases of toilet paper because your cat is bored and started using the button as a toy. The same thing could happen with this button. Having a cat pressed a button several times, without your partner knowing it, could send an embarrassing message that you are excited at 2:30 pm.
The LoveSync Kickstarter campaign page states that "it offers the most benefit to couples who tend not to be as often outside of their sexual desires, but even those who have greater dynamism to the average have room for improvement. "This may be a good starting point for those who are not comfortable or able to pick up non-verbal cues, but this should only be the first step – everything should be bring back to communication.
An FAQ section of the campaign contains additional details about the product, noting that "LoveSync will dramatically reduce the number of unsuccessful failed attempts to determine if your partner is" in the mood ", the preliminaries are a important element. psychological and physiological aspects of healthy sexual intercourse. The FAQ section, unfortunately, does not contain tips on how to simply talk to your partner about why there are so many unsuccessful preliminary attempts between you two.
"You are also content with suboptimal sex."
This is the main problem of the LoveSync strategy: it could be an easier way to let your partner know that you want to have sex, but does not solve the fundamental problem that arises. Talking about sex and what your partner wants or needs to have a fulfilling sexual experience is essential for a fulfilling sex life. As LoveSync's Kickstarter says, it's not just about having more sex, it's about having a better relationship. Kate McCombs, a sex educator, told HealthLine in 2017.
"When you avoid these vital conversations, you may avoid some of the embarrassment, but you are also content with suboptimal sex," she said.
LoveSync turns sex into an intimate relationship into a quantifiable activity, instead of focusing on the quality of a couple's sex life. Healthy sex is born out of healthy and openly communicative partners. Simply tapping a button and hoping that your partner will respond, like some kind of Morse code in a dark room, does not solve the problem, it temporarily puts it on hold.
And if your partner chooses to hold down the button for four seconds and cancel "his desire," you will still have to think about what's going on in his head instead of just having a conversation.
Seriously, talk to your partner the next time you want to have sex and do not know if he's up to it – and save yourself $ 50.